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Then, just two months after their first date, he asked her to move in with him. The grand gestures didn’t stop there. When she casually mentioned wanting to go to Jamaica, he purchased plane tickets that same night. He also sent huge flower arrangements to her office a number of times and left poems on the windshield of her car. “I was being canada goose store lavished with attention, compliments, emotions, gifts and over the top charm at buy canada goose jacket every turn. The reality was, he didn’t even know me.”

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